I was always the first one to have to be in as well, my Mum was a total worrier (maybe because there was only me and her), in the end i became a nightmare and was completely wild for a couple of years.

I've got no kids (remembering how i was put me off ) but i'd maybe cut her some slack and give her a bit longer.

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Grifdegalles

morning all, thank you all for your replies last night, i think the majority agreed i wasnt being to strict with her!!! lol i think it is probably the fact that i do have to drive the 20 mins there and back to get her , as she is a really sensible girl and i suppose if we still lived in the area ( she has grown up there all her life and knows everyone) i would probably be letting her out later, but anyhow we didnt get back in until nearly 12 so she did get her extra 1/2 hour lol

Ideally you set the ground rules and stick to them.

I'm too soft being a Friday night no school I would probably have said okay but then kids try to push the boundaries even further ie oh my mates dad is picking her up at 24.00 etc etc..

At 18 I was allowed to stay out until 23.00 at weekends and 21.00 week days could push it to 21.30 but I had run like hell upstairs to bed before the dreaded Susan, boy if they called your name in full you were in for it.

Sue

LOL

its only because we love them so much and know the dangers that are out there but i know we have all been through this ourselves with our parents ( who were totally out of order then as well!!! LOL ) but it is different now days i think?

Yes you are right, I pushed the boundaries my kids pushed the boundaries, fortunately they have all now flown the nest and I can sit back and relax now. Things are different today there seems to be more dangers.

If you can, set your boundaries and stick to them.

Sue

my mum expects me to leae places before everyone else (they're younger than me too). when they're due home at say 1 my mum wants me back for 11 latest

It's so annoying, most of the time i dont bother going out.
then again when i do i'm usually late, 11 is far to early for an 18 year old! on new years i got in at 3.30 which i felt the next day, i usually like to get home by midnight - half midnight which is think is alright

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Its annoying but your mum loves you and you have to remember times have changed it takes a while for us oldies to accept that too.

Now I was going out one evening when a film was on TV that I really wanted to watch Dirty Dancing, I asked my parents to video it, they agreed.

Following day I asked about the video mum said very sharply no we didn't tape it. why, me and your dad don't agree with filth but it isn't - we know we watched it punchlines yet to come - I was about 30 at the time

So you think you guys have it tough, its parents, parenting because they care - always remember that and you will realise in time you will be exactly the same with your own children even though right now you know you won't.

Sue

blooming heck, my mum isn't bothered by what i watch, listen to or play
thankfully!

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if i told my kids to be in at a certain time and they were in later than wat i said they wouldnt be going out next timeand a thrashing thrown in lol

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.....lol yeah rite u are soft as shat