I think I have them.
You can be a mean as you want, I want real opinions, I feel cr*p already so I need a kick up the butt tbh.

I got max on friday, an 8 week extremely cute bundle of fluff but I'm just crying all the time I feel I've made a bad desicion getting him which I feel such a failure for. I have been wanting a new dog for a year, a friend for jess and I geniually looked into it all and got advice from people, making sure I had the time and energy and I thought I did, I thought I was ready, but now I feel I rushed into it even after a year.
He is wonderful, uses his puppy pads if I don't get him out in time, stops when I tell him no has slept through the night so far which makes me feel even worse as I know he could be so much worse.

I feel bad for Jess, the dog I already have and my cats as they don't get on, which of course is to be expected, its only been four days!
I suffer from depression which I am getting help for and I thought getting Max would help too, give me something to get up for in a way but its not turned out that way.

I love him so much already and I in such a mess I don't know what to do.
I feel like such a fool. He is playing on my bed right now, looking so cute
I just feel he would be better off else where and it breaks my heart.

I just can't stop crying or get this horrible feeling of regret away. I feel like the worst person ever atm.

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Daisy
I'm Leanne

If you have only had him 4 days ring the breeder back up and explain to her and most breeders will take any pup back no matter what age it is

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Life without dogs i dont think so

Give your self a break chick - often with depression you cant look after yourself too well so to take on a little body and be solely responsible for them is huge. Just take a step back - breath in and out and relax a bit. It'll all come good I'm sure but dont be frightened to ask for help - are your family and friends around?? And dont worry about your other dog - she'll take to him, he'll probably have come as a shock to her system but usually an older bitch and younger dog learn to get along just fine

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Jo, Nelly, Bhu and Molly
Some people talk alot.................and say nowt

it can take longer than 4 days for them all to gel
give it time
noses are put out off joint sometimes when a new pup arrives
4 days is not long at all
it can take a few weeks sometimes

dont worry hun. i think a lot of people react in the same way at the beginning. i know i did. we moved quite quickly into getting another dog when bailey died, and i found it really hard at the beginning. i cried a lot coz the pup frustrated me so much.

but do you know what, its all paying off now. shes turning into a little star. you've only had him for 4days, and it can be quite stressful at times. just take each day as it comes.

hope you feel better x

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6th Jan 2008 - 22nd July 2009

As others have mentioned, your depression is whats actually getting you down, I feel rather than the pup, because its doing everything you expect if to do, and behaving, your cats will soon come around to having the new addition, it takes time, and most cats are rather independant anyway, they are probably no where near as upset about this situation as you are. it has only been a few days and rome wasnt built in a day, so give yourself a break, the cats will accept him or just plain old adapt, and you will have a lovely pup too.

Mo

Thanks everyone. I think it is the depression as I don't want to give him up, not at all. I think I'm just a bit overwhelmed I guess.

He has fallen asleep now on my bed, darn I must move him to his crate but he looks so cute!

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Daisy
I'm Leanne

I also suffer from depression, touch wood I have been ok for around a year now, but when I first got Zach I was hard on myself like you are being now. Guilt is associated with your illness; tell yourself that, and look at the situation rationally. Is the dog really unhappy? Doesn't sound like it, sounds like he is settling in fine. If you really feel that you have made the wrong decision give the breeder a call (like somebody else has said) - she will probably be happy that you have contacted her rather than carrying on in misery. Going back to the breeder after a few days will more than likely have not affected the dog at all so don't be hard on yourself.

If you do decide to keep the pup, from my experience I'd be inclined to reassure you - it DOES get better. I did believe all my problems would vanish when I got a dog, as I had wanted one for so long - but its not the case. Depression is a nasty illness that will not just vanish immediately. Things DID improve, however, when he was old enough to go for walks. Exercise is a huge help for depression sufferers, and its not just something doctors say to get rid of you! It really works. Getting out with my dog every day for a long walk is the best medicine I could ever have. I know its true because a while ago I was unable to walk Zach (his injury) for two weeks, and it affected me a lot, I felt very blue, but then when returning to the routine my mood lifted enormously.

Whatever you decide, just tell yourself - you're thinking of the dog, so much so that you're feeling terribly guilty - if everyone considered their dogs quality of life as much as you do there would be much less animal cruelty in the world. Personally I think if you are capable of giving a dog what it needs, it will give you back lots more in return. Possibly the best medicine for depression sufferers - they give you a reason to get up in the mornings and make you leave the house for fresh air and exercise.

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like others have said i think it's the depression and not just the puppy. i have suffered from depression and know how hopeless it can make u feel, ur blaming yourself for something that isnt ur fault. make a list of all the things ur doing right and what he's doing right, make an action plan if u want too, might make u feel better when u achieve something, good luck

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Corrine

It sounds like you are doing ok so far, maybe your just feeling a little overwhelmed with the change at the moment. I remember when we adopted our dogs i had a bit of confidence wibble right before they came home and a few days after. Even now i have the odd day that i feel like i'm a rubbish owner which isn't really true, more a case of low-self esteem. Depression can give you a warped view of things and make you not very kind to yourself. You might find this MoodGYM site useful

Can some friends/family help you with your new pup and reassure you? However if your really finding things too much then there's no shame in returning the puppy.