OK, fair enough, people do have a tendency to be judgemental on these forums. I was genuinely trying to give the benefit of my experience in a slightly similar situation without being too harsh, possibly didn't get quite the right balance.

I wasn't having a go at you or anybody elseSorry if it came across that way Peace?

I suppose I was concerned not to put the OP off as she was/is a new member - we don't want to scare her off

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Sylvestris Kennels - Pedigree Labrador Breeders
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Hi there,
This happened to me.... My decision was to get rid of the fiance... so i did that and never regretted it lol i love my dog and shes the perfect companion for me She doesnt lie or say i look fat and she keep me company on my walks sorry im not much help x

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awww what a horrible situation you're in! Having a puppy is hard work and even though both me and hubby have grown up with dogs, the chewing, weeing and everythin was a shock to the system. He's now 20 months, a lot calmer and a dog to be proud of....because of us.

I think you already know that you don't want to get rid of the puppy, problem is, what if you do? you may end up resenting your fiance for making you do that.
I think you should try get him to go to puppy training this week, without you and tell him he has to try to make an effort as you're not one to get a puppy and give up after 5 weeks.

good luck.

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Kittes: Bella & Theo - 4 year old moggies
Doggy: Rupert - 2 1/2 year old Collie x
Chinchilla: Gypsy - Ebony

Just read through the full thread, as i`m in a simular situation myself, i love my hubby very much, but he is a clean freak and a times drive me insane.
I now have six dogs (only had one when i first met him) with each dog i have got he has said "that is it we getting no more" he loves them all to bits and he could never part with them, but he does moan about the mess they cause, i have laminate floor thoughout the house, we have a machine washable mat at the back door, i keep a dog towel on a hook by the back door for drying them and a packet of wet wipes for muddy paws and wipe downs.
We have just got our first litter and i knew all along i was going to keep my first born, hubby had told me in an arguement that if i got anymore dogs we would split up, from the day the litter was born a week ago, i had my first born named and have said all along she is staying, to which he would shake his head and say "no she not" to which i said "oh yes she is" today hubby decided he was going to have a cuddle of one of the pups and he said "which one are we keeping" i smiled to myself knowing i had won and passed him Lacey.
Now i know there will be times when he will get anoyed with them and the mess they make, i just try my best to clean up after them before he gets to it first so that he can`t complain, my dogs will come before him any time and he knows this.
So i can safely say i now have 7 dogs and he either likes it or he knows where the door is, all i say is close it on the way out so the doglets don`t escape.

So i`m sure if he loves you and your son he will come round, fingers crossed for you, put your foot down and be strong for you furbaby

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Sounds like the novelty of a puppy has worn off for your fiance and he has realised its not all just cuddles and tricks.
There isn't much you can do about that.
Tell him to get a grip and realise that it takes time, hard work, patience and lots of love for a puppy to become a well behaved dog.
If he loves you then he should understand, it was a joint decision to get him so it should be a joint decision to 'get rid'

I hope everything works out x

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I'm Leanne

My local animal sanctuary is having a dog walking singles event in a few weeks..... COME ON DOWN! lol. Drop it like it's hot.

No seriously, I hope you can work something out. Would you ever honestly and truly forgive him if he made you part with your puppy love? I doubt it. I think both you and your son would resent him for it. I would anyway. If your puppy matters to you as much as it clearly does then he is going to need to appreciate that more than having sparkling floors.

Having read through all of the replies to this thread, one in particular struck me as a great idea (speaking as a guy myself)

The bit in bold is the part you need to relay to your fiance! A highly paid barrister couldn't come up with anything better.

Ask him..."By getting rid of this pup, aren't we just teaching our son that in life, it's OK and almost positively encouragable, to just quit when the going gets even slightly tough?"

That's a strong message to send to a proud man - which he obviously is.

You need to sit down and be as direct with him as he is with you.

For his sake though, you do need to compromise. You said that you have 2 reception rooms, and I would say that your fiance would be delighted to hear that you have come up with the suggestion that the puppy is banned from one of them (your fiance's favourite one) in order that it is always tidy and free of doggy stuff (like wee, toys, food and the puppy) so that if your OH needs a "dog free environment" - he can find one in his own home. He will see that he is at least being considered.

If though, after all of this, he still acts grumpy, I would start saying stuff like, "I feel really sorry for people who won't have a pet just so they can have a clean living room floor. Imagine if when we got old, and we're on our deathbed, and all we had to look through was a photo album of 10 years worth of clean wooden floors for memories? How sad would that be? 'Oh look, that's the time the floor was clean on April 2nd! And there it is again on May 4th!'"

Sometimes, this type of approach works best with irrational partners as they cannot think of a rational reply.

It worked for me

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Love that last post says everything realy
the thing is how can a man or anyone for that matter take a pup away from a child that has got attached to the pup that i do not understand.
Sounds to me that this guy is selfish too Now i would be wondering how he would react to a new baby throwing up, howling at night (just like some pups do) and the smell of full nappies hmmmmmmmm
Has your man ever had a new born baby or a puppy before (sorry not sure if your little boy is his)
So don't mean to be disrespectful here.
You are between a rock and a hard place I think and it would break my heart if my OH said get rid of the pup for the sake of a clean house.
I hope you can sort this as your son as well as you at some point in the future are going to resent being controlled like this if you decide to let the pup go.
Tell him to grow up sorry thats how I feel as he is acting like a spoilt brat

SabrinaUK can you update us on how things are going since the original post?

I'm sure we would all like to hear - hope its good news.

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Sylvestris Kennels - Pedigree Labrador Breeders
Inverurie, Aberdeenshire
www.sylvestriskennels.co.uk