Hiya,

We've now had Zelda for two months and two weeks. She's settled in so well and we've developed a good friendship. She's even started eating a few new things and has put on a decent amount of weight.

My problem is still with her and Aber, he just really doesn't like her. We've got to the point now where she appears to be scared of him, even though he's never attacked her (they sometimes swipe at each other but no full on fights). They both have full run of the house and go outside pretty much whenever they want as long as i'm there to let them in and out. They will live quite happily in the same space ignoring each other until their paths have to cross.

Aber will growl at her every time he sees her, when he hears her, when he thinks he hears her, when we pick him up and sometimes just because. I've taken him to the vet to make sure there's nothing else wrong with him (there was, his teeth but they have been sorted and he's had the all clear).

I was in the kitchen with Zel the other day and Aber came in, she backed up and put her paw in the air (looked like a defence thing) and he took this as her being aggressive and growled and swiped at her.

I've tried adding litter trays (Aber doesn't use his anyway, he always goes outside), tried moving where they are fed (they ate next to each other until about a week ago and now Zel won't go over there if he's there), i've tried feliway, i've tried ignoring Zel and giving all my attention to Aber, I feel like i've tried everything.

Does anyone have any advise, anything that might be able to help? The vet suggested a pet behaviourist if it carries on, does anyone have any experience with them? is it too soon for that do you think?

Sorry for the essay, I wouldn't have posted if I didn't think we had a problem, it seems to be getting worse.

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I think sometimes cats just dont get on, as long as they are not fighting each other I would leave be. Its good that they have access to outside so they are not forced together in the same space.

Sorry I know you were looking for advice but I sometimes think cats tolerate each other and thats about as far as they are prepared to go.

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You could try giving Aber Zylkene- it helps them to deal with stress and change or you could try putting rescue remedy in their drinking water- sounds like he is very jealous and unsure of himself, poor lad.

I don't have any answers sorry, when mine play fight either Duke our dog will break them up by pushing them apart with his nose ior I will clap my hands to stop them, as I don't want it getting out of hand.

Hi thanks for the replies, just didn't have the time to get back online yesterday.

As I write this Aber is asleep under my bed, he's taken to going under there quite a lot now. I just feel so guilty because he's obviously not happy at the moment. I don't mind if they don't get on as long as they are both happy.

I will try the rescue remedy and see if that helps

Thanks

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Rescue Remedy sounds like a good product, but is it a short-term solution?
Cats that don't get along might not like each other for years. If your sure they are just swiping each other without any full blown fights, as Kittykat suggested, then maybe you should leave them to work it out for themselves

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I have a similar problem with my two cats and am at my whit’s end. I have 2 male neutered Norwegian forest cats one is 2 the other 18 months and until six months ago they were inseparable. They have an enclosed garden area with grass trees and so on, the problem started when one got out I caught him and brought him back in and he was cussing at me, the other cat then attacked him and a full blown fight ensued the cat that was attacked is quite happy to get along but the other is just not having it, he does not growl and spit shows no sign of aggression but just runs at him and starts fighting. I have had to keep them separated now for six months they can see each other and I rotate their space. Any suggestions will be much appreciated.

I had 2 cats exactly like this and in the end I had to rotate what rooms they had access to and after a few months of this, they got used to the scent etc of each other, and eventually accepted that they had to share the space. Zylkene is good, have used this on my cat as she started chewing bald spots on herself. It really calmed her down. Not sure how this will work with the above, but try giving it to the more agressive of the 2 and see if it takes affect.

Thanks, I will give it a try and see if it makes a difference.