I think we can all appreciate you care very much about Silver and it is very frustrating for you that your dad can't understand. All you can hope is that if your dad will stop trying to MAKE the kitten like him - the kitten may come around to him eventually once he realises a man won't hurt him.

Let's just hope things improve.

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Kaz

For kittens, joy is for the asking and smiles are for the giving

cats are a little like the SAS anyway - well mine are - they sneak around entering rooms stealthily hiding under furniture and then WHAM they dive on you - its what some do - mine in the past have even managed to keep the bells on their collars still - so for some cats hiding IS the norm

As for clawing all cats will let you know when they've had enough of being held or fussed anyway but my Luna will scratch out when picked up UNLESS its my daughter doing it and Wispa vice versa - its nothing personal

Some cats just tend to live alongside humans and never really interact (some are just too posh) whilst others demand lots of attention - I'm lucky that mine are more like the first as I work so can't be with them 24/7 anyway - they are all individual

Hope things resolve for you and you can reach some kind of happy medium

Just give him time. Don't forget he's just a kitten. When I first brought my kitten nilly home, she was very wary of the surrounding and would jump away and hide whenever she sense some movements approaching towards her. Right now, after months, she no longer develop that feeling of insecurity and has grown affectionate towards everyone in the house.

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owner of a brown cute kitten. I name her nilly
also an aquarium pet fish enthusiast

hello everyone! sorry its been a while. haven't had anything new to say. but here's an update:
i'm at school still, so i get my updates from my dad. the cat still hides from him usually, but today he actually jumped onto the couch and sat by my dad! first time ever! i'm pleased that he did this. however, i don't think it'll last only cause one minute the cat is fine, then next minute, he freaks out for no reason and runs off and hides again. and yes, unfortuantely my dad told me he sometimes gets pissed at the cat still, but i can't do anything about that; i'm just glad silver isn't being seriously hurt from him, thats all. but nonetheless i wanted to share this with you all other than hiding from my dad still, mostly, he's doing fine; he's getting so big! he follows my mom around and sleeps with her which is great. he's been exploring alot too. so he's overall doing well. well, thats all lets hope this is a step into him approaching my father more

I'm glad things are improving! Silver looks so adorable! My Dad found Treacle a bit of a handful when he was tiny especially as it was just him on his own, and he would always climb onto the furniture (i.e. my Dad's hi-fi!) but now Treacle is such a lovely, relaxed, gentle cat and so friendly with us and with Jumpy. I hope Silver will turn out the same

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RIP Charcoal my shy girl 1987-2000, Patch the wanderer 1987-?, Tabby my darling fluffball 1988-2002 & Panda the rascal 1988-2008

thank you! I also hope Silver turns out that way

Welcome back and good to have an update. Hopefully, as you say, it may be the start of better things between the cat and your dad. You can but hope. At least your mum has a lovely companion!

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Kaz

For kittens, joy is for the asking and smiles are for the giving

so, i'm home for my spring break, and Silver is doing well yes, he still hides, but he actually doesn't do it as much now. when we first got him he hid nearly all day but now he hangs out with us most of the day (well with me and my mom at least lol). he's a happy little kitty i'll probably put a new pic up in a few days or so; he's getting so big! and this might be my last post for a while unless i have anything new to say. so thank you all for the help/advice you've given me! i've greatly appreciated it

Do post a piccie. Would love to see how he is looking

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Kaz

For kittens, joy is for the asking and smiles are for the giving

ok, i posted a new pic