Hi guys,

I have a 7 year old neutered female cat (Pebbles) and a 5 month old unneutered female kitten (Bambi).


I have had Bambi for 4 months now, and when i first got her Pebbles wasn't too happy that she was a new addition to thefamily but she coped and they got on fine.
but in the last few weeks, Bambi has really been picking on Pebbles, it looks to me as if she wants to play but Pebbles does not want to.

What happens is Bambi plays with Pebbles tail and Pebbs dont like it. I'm not saying its all Bambi as I have seen Pebbs teasing her.

Also when they are waiting for dinner or Pebbs is just sittingthere Bambi forces herself into Pebbles with her nose ad just keeps pushing and pushig. Pebbles hisses at her and growls and sometimes swipes at her and all Bambi does is stand on her hind legs with both front legs out and leaps at Pebbles.

Pebbs isn't the most confident of cats to be honest but against the little one I would've thought she would stick up for herself.
just doesn't listen when Pebbs has a go at her and just goes back for more.
We've tried telling her off but with no response. I have tried to leave them to it in the hope that Bambs will finally listen.

I don't know what to do anymore.
Bambi doesn't ever listen to the word NO!! she jumps up on the table, drinks out of cups and bowls etc only when they are not being touched, if they are in your hand she listens, and bites and scratches, but she doent get when were telling her off.

Sorry for the rambling but i dont know what to do anymore,. i need some advice if possible please!!!

Thankyou
Amy

shes doing what 5month old ones do - same here! shy yr old & boisterous kitten. if theres no injuries going on, its overplaying.

i throw toys in a different direction to get him off her. interactive toys like automatic lasers help too - give him something to chase so she gets peace/ cuddles

she gives the little one a quick greeting sniff & lick - he purrs away , so when he chills out, i hope they'll be friends

Hello Amy,

Ive had a lot of trouble with a newbie in the family, ive had basil for 9 years when i got seven (name! not amount) as a kitten. she hissed at him for for no reason one day and he went for her after getting on for so well for so long. she now hisses at him randomly for no reason, I alsoi have trouble around feeding time. All I can say is not to worry too much cats always figure out the pecking order in the end. I got Feliway which has been a god send, seven is a different cat, they are playing together again.

Please do not rehome as this can have lasting damage to your poor cat.

It is always better for cats to have company than living on their own.

I think the important thing is to give them enough space from each other, so neither feels its own space is constantly being invaded by the other.

For example, don't feed them near each other. I feed one of mine up on a side table in the kitchen, and one on the floor the other side of the room.
Also, make sure the older cat has various perches around the house where he can get away from the young one when he wants peace and quiet.

I never allow one cat to bully another. If I witness it I always intervene by removing either cat temporarily from the scene, and then I give them some treats and make a fuss of them to show they are both loved and important. The bullying is usually about jockeying for the superior cat position in the household.

It sounds a bit as though your kitten is already challenging your older cat's position as No.1, and it may be that as she gets bigger she will challenge it even more. On the other hand she might calm down as she grows up and then hopefully the 2 cats can reach a compromise. If they can't be friends, which is quite possible, at least they can learn to live peacably together, in their own space.

Hey, thanks for all your help guys.

They dont arue and fight or anything, i think its just like kids really, where they try and get each other into trouble lol!!

they are not aggressive to each other i9n any way so they should be ok, i think little'un wants to play with the older one an she donesnt want to lol!!

I definately wouldn't rehome, kitten is a rescue, ive had her 3 months. and shes still young,
i tried feliway but didn't work, had it going for week and half, and she just got really hyperactive, more than normal, i took it away and she calmed down.
weird lol!!