hey all

i bought a bengal kitten (not pure) 3 weeks ago
for the first two weeks it stayed at my girlfriends as my house wasnt ready for it and i had to go away for one of the weekends.

for the last week it has been at mine, but it just dosnt seem to like me
if i pick her up and put her on my lap, she will just jump off and sit on my girlfriends lap instead

she wont sleep with me at night, instead she cuddles up to my girlfriend.
the only thing she will do with me is play, but still again only if im the only one willing to play with her

i do all the looking after her and she dosnt even like me, its quite frustrating tbh

any advice would be much appreciated

thanks
richy

How old was the kitten when you got her?

Think about it from her point.

She got taken away from her mum and put into this other house, she bonded with the person there and started to settle when she got taken to another house and now she's scared, the one thing in the new place that is still the same is your girlfriend which is probably why she's sticking with her.

Don't force her onto your knee/lap, let her explore, let her become comfortable with you and then she'll start trusting you and will let you pet her

Good advice above. Persevere - don't try to rush her, does she enjoy being groomed - use a soft brush and perhaps when she is a little quieter, just falling asleep, just brush her gently around the faces (particularly around the whiskers). Carry on playing with her and feeding her. To a large extent she has only been with you a week - and building any bond usually takes some time. I do think it is only right and proper that you post a photo of your kitten

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Kaz

For kittens, joy is for the asking and smiles are for the giving

Roxie was 9 weeks when i got her, she is 12 weeks now

yeah i get what you guys are saying
and thanks for the advice
i shall let her come to me then

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Was it her mum or dad that was Bengal

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her mom was full bengal
her dad was 3/4 bengal (one of his parents was full and the other was half)

Are you sure? I mean, she's black lol

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im sure, what does her color have to do with it?

Well, most Bengals have strong distinct tabby markings:

google image bengal - Google Search

I know black isnt an accepted Bengal colour, although they do occasionally occur... The brown is dominant though so it is unlikely to get a black Bengal from the Bengal parentage you describe.

I hope you didnt pay a pedigree price What did mum/dad look like?

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she is black with marble markings and these markings are coming through more and more

no i payed £150 for her