Thanks everyone, I tried to follow the thread but I think it went a little of the beaten track.

At least I'm not on my own.

We didn't have any problems until recently, I was in a routine of putting the kittens to bed while Duke our dog SBT was outside for his last toilet. One evening the kittens were jumping at the door and catching the door handle, meowing, Duke bolted upstairs and let them out, they greeted in a re-assuring way, then off to bed.

It has now become part of my routine to stay with them for a few minutes before leaving them. That settles them down nicely.

As for which room animals and children sleep in my opinion it should be their own, unless there are reasons or circumstances where my bed is then shared, either a treat, or I am concerned about them. That's me everyone has their own views there is no right or wrong way its individual preferences.

Thanks again

Sue

That seems like a wonderfully helpful comment....I love my cat, my kids and even my husband (!) but 24 hours a day is a lot to spend with any of them and it doesn't do cats, kids or parents any harm to have their own space to sleep in.

I let my kitten sleep on my bed when she was younger, and much as I love her to bits, I almost wish I hadn't. Now she's two, and still sleeps there every night, but wakes me a 4/5/6am to play, and if I shut her out of the bedroom she wails like a banshee! There's nothing lovelier than when she curls up next to me, all purring and cute, but when she's stamping on my chest a 4.30 in the morning ( like this morning!) demanding food she's not quite so cute!

I have had 3 children cats and dogs and have never let any sleep with me
Sorry but you are the one in the wrong here
Children sleeping with parents is a big no no with me as it encourages poor sleeping habits and behaviour problems later on

I still loved my children and my pets
How dare you accuse people of not loving their pets
Where do you get off?

ha ha same here..

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Well I can give good advice: as far as making up your mind and sticking to it is concerned - purely because I have made a rod for my very own back.

I can never make up my mind where my cats are going to go at night time (oh and I am pretty sure they don’t sleep!).
Sometimes they get the whole of the downstairs, sometimes they get the whole house (apart from our room) and sometimes we leave our bedroom door open.

I love the cats all snuggled up with us at night, but of course there are some bedtime activities that are not suitable for a feline audience (or feline participation). The problem if we let them in the room, is a lot of early morning activity, like 5 this morning, when our 9 week old kitten flew across my bed, closely followed by my two 8 month old boys.

When it is really hot, we need the door open to get air to flow through the house, (the whole physics of the passage of air…), nights when its hot like this, they are best behaved, as they are hot too, and can normally be found lying in front of the open window stealing all the cool air.

If I close the door, the hole in the carpet gets bigger… well I can’t help it if they love me so much they want to come in our room… he he… As far as protecting the carpet is concerned, the kitchen is best in our house, as they can’t do much to ceramic tiles!

I have 2 kids and 4 cats. My cats sleep anywere they want during day including on the beds. At night patsy is outside and so is kitten in conservatory but 9 times out of 10 my persians can be found in my eldest sons bed asleep with him. Then they usually come and get me up in early hours of morning to go out as they have a cat flap in conservatory. As for the kids my eldest is 9 now so doesnt bother with getting in our bed but used 2 occasionally when he was little. My youngest is nearly 5 and will occasionally come and get in our bed if he has had a bad dream or he is ill.I personally dont think it does any harm for the kids to get in bed every now and then and have never had any behaviour problems etc. As for my cats they are treated like babies and i am not bothered if people think its wrong personally my animals are part of the family and are treated like it . Everyone has there own veiws on these things and im sure someone will have something to say about my comments. My kids and my animals are all loved if very spoilt but thats just me.

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I didnt say it would hurt if it was only now and again, my kids came to me if they were ill or had a dream then we would take it in turns to go to their bed and stay with them until they were asleep
I dont believe in children spending EVERY night in bed with their parents, its not healthy!
And i definitely would not be getting up in the middle of the night or early hours to let cats out when there is a catflap in place, how ridiculous!
Whats the point of having it exactly?

There is a door in between the kitchen and conservatory so how to do you actually propose they get out with out me opening the door . I am sorry but if my child needed comforting every night so be it. They would be in my bed with me every night for as long as it took to reassure them weather this be days ,weeks or months. The point of the cat flap is so that when they are in the conservatory they have access to outside but prevents other cats from getting in the house not as though i need to explain myself. As i said everyone has there own opinion on these things. As usual though these days on here everything gets turned into a heated debate and no one is supposed to have there individual opinions

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Can you please point me in the right direction of the evidence to back that up?