Thankyou all so so much. I think I need to pull my self together and talk to my wife. Reading your replies has made me a bit of a state. I think I shall do some phoning around if we make that decision. The hardest thing is that she is obviously die'ing, but purring, I dont think she is in any kind of pain. She keeps putting her paw on me. I am just praying that she passes quickly. She doesnt deserve to suffer.

So sorry to hear of your loss and how poorly Beanie is. We lost a cat aged 13 to kidney failure - he just died in my son's arms and did not seem to be in any pain. It is heartbreaking -I've spent a lot of time crying over lost cats but could never be without one.
Your vet doesn't sound very sympathetic and I would certainly try to find another one.
Sending all good thoughts to you and your family xx

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Hello Peter - sorry that you lost little Charlie not much more than two weeks ago and now little Beanie is so desperately ill. Many others on here have put it better than I could but my thoughts are with you and your wife.

I do hope that when the time comes, Beanie's passing will be gentle and peaceful. It was shocking to read how quickly the vet practise pretty well did away with her before her time by asking how you wished to treat her body before they had even treated the living patient.

If you feel at all uneasy, select another vet. For the time being, whilst you still have her, I hope that you will be able to treasure the time you have left.

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Ra

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I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news, my thoughts are with you all x

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Who ever said you can't buy happiness

... never had a cat.

oh my!
how heartless can someone be??


im sorry x

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i am so sorry for your dilemma I recently had this and I cheated I bought a bottle of kaolin and morphin from boots the morphin floats so I sucked it up with a pipette and squirted it in my cats mouth she was 17 kidney failure she went to sleep purring and didnt wake up

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i am so so so sorry x

my thoughts are with you both and little puss.

So sorry to read this, my heart goes out to you and I could cheerfully ring the neck of your vet...how heartless.
It's hard to know what to do for the best when you love a cat that much. I was in the same position with one of my cats (CRF) and let her go on her own. She was quite peaceful, but it still doesn't take the pain away.
My thoughts are with you.

My heartfelt sympathies - I lost my 15 year old cat in March this year. As a family we were all knocked back by the grief. We very much wanted to do the best for our cat - we did not want him to be in pain and we did not want to prolong his life if he wasn't enjoying it.

We knew when the time had come - he did not show any interest in anything apart from sleeping. He could not climb the stairs.

We decided to have him put to sleep. However i would now do this differently.

I would pay extra for a home visit.

I would check with the vet if there was an easier way of doing it than the quick literally heart stopping injection - I had my hand on my cat when she injected him and I could feel the accelerated beating and to be truthful the shock. Posters here have said gas helps this. i would ask for that.

When I was a child the cat was literally 'put to sleep' - the cat went to sleep first and died about 5-10 minutes later. Far, far gentler.

We opted for crematorium with ashes back to us. I don't know how the vetinary surgery did it but we also got a black and white card which was a photo but like a drawing of our cat. I found that really helpful and have it in my kitchen as a reminder - it is really lifelike.

I still have the ashes on my mantelpiece - I can't quite bear to part with them though one day I will let them flow in the wind......


I still cry even now - am now.


But we adopted 2 Maine Coons - never a replacement - they are their own personalities and completely different from my old cat. But we love them and they have filled the physical hole left by his passing.