Hi Peter,

My thoughts are with you - I lost my dog and my moggie 2 years ago within 3 months of one another, and I know how difficult it is to go through so much emotional pain.

Should you decide to put her to sleep, I would seriously consider asking for another vet to treat Beanie - no vet should ever make you feel like they are not an animal lover (and as for the phone call, that is preposterous).

If there isn't another vet available have you considered speaking to a different practise? The one thing that enabled me to make the decision to put my animals down (they both suffered strokes and were in pain) with regards to putting both my animals to sleep was that my vet was very kind and he would understand my loss. He even went so far as to put my dog to sleep in the back of my car so as she wouldn't have to go into the surgery, and my cat was put down as she faced the window - so she had a nice view... sounds daft, but it really meant the world to me.

I hope that whatever you decide, Beanie goes peacefully and I'm thinking of you at this very difficult time.

I'm so sorry to read about Beanie being so poorly.

As far as I know (and I am sure the experienced breeders and vet nurses will correct me if I am wrong) euthenasia is done via an injection because that is the most direct way for the medication to enter the blood and eventually pass to the heart. I know with my hamster my vet gave the little chap gas first to sedate him and then gave him the injection (as I didn't want him injected when he was conscious).

If I was you I would ring around and find a vet who is willing to come to your home and who you like the sound of. I changed my vet earlier this year. First, I looked in Yellow Pages for a shortlist, then on the internet and finally rang and spoke to a vet nurse. I am so pleased I changed as my vet was brilliant when I had to have one of my bunnies put to sleep. She gave her an injection in her side and let me hold her and Daisy just slowly went to sleep. It took longer but gave me a chance to say goodbye to her and was very gentle.

It does hurt so much - and I have said 'no more animals' in the past but when I weigh up the many, many years of pleasure and unconditional love my fur family give me I still have pets - and go through the awful pain and loss each time they have to pass onto Rainbow Bridge.

Thinking of you and your beautiful fur baby.

xxxx

Peter I am so sorry to hear your sad news, you must try to remember that you have given her an amazing and happy life. My thoughts are with you xxx

I am so very sorry to hear about your girl Beanie, I'm going through a similar thing with my dog, its the waiting thats the worst, and like you, I'm secretly hoping she's going to go quietly in her sleep before the time comes that we have to have her PTS, because I don't feel our vet is enough of an animal lover either. Sadly, I don't believe there's any other way, and if she's in enough pain, it will have to be done. You could change vets, and most vets will put an animals to sleep in your own home if you wish.

I wish there was more I could do or say, but I really am keeping you and Beanie in my thoughts.

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2 greyhounds (Todd & Maddy), 2 cats (Lucky & Rigsy), 1 rabbit (Rosie), 2 guinea pigs (Gizmo & Steve) and 5 hamsters (Jasper, Ted, Barney, Marshall & Doughnut).

RIP Misty, Breagha & William and all my other Rainbow Bridge babies.

Im so sorry, i dont know what to say bless you both for looking after beanie so well, i had to have my GSD put to sleep from cancer, and i had an injection to make her dopey, then i held her till she had the main injection and i still held her until my oh pulled me off her, i couldnt let go, so i really feel in my heart for you and your wife, its a dam horrible thing to have to do, and i cant understand a vet that would be so uncaring. my thoughts are with you all .

I'm so sorry, and so sorry your vet has upset you, it was very insensitive of them to speak in that way.

A competent vet should be able to find a vein without causing any distress, and the euthanasia meds work very quickly and peacefully. Talk to your vet and explain your anxieties, they really should understand how you feel.
I think they sometimes try to discuss arrangements before hand as it would seem even more callous to discuss it immediately afterwards, but they could have taken more notice of your feelings and done it in a more caring manner.

The idea of someone coming to your house sounds like a good one to consider, as you would have a little more control over the surroundings and hopefully feel less stressed .

It never gets easier to lose an animal you love so much, but my life would be so empty without them.

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Peter,

My heart goes out to you and your wife and of course Beanie. I hope the end is peaceful and that you and your wife can think about all of the good times.

Best wishes.

Kath

Hi Peter,
I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news. It's always going to be painful for us to loose our furbabies it don't matter how old they are... But atleast you know how much love and care Beanie got from you and your wife. My heart goes out to you both

Hi Peter,
im so sorry your cat is so poorly and for the loss of your other cat.
I do know how you feel, it is heartbreaking as they become part of the family. Just remember that they know how much they are loved by you and your family.

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