(not sure if I should be posting this here or in the Rainbow Bridge forum - started reading some things on there and it nearly set me of blubbing yet again!)

We lost our beloved Tinkerbell on Monday morning, run over on the main road not far from our house. Although we didn't find out until yesterday afternoon, we were hoping she'd just gone on a long wander and would be back soon ...

I'm utterly devastated. She was only 1 1/2 years old, still my baby. Words can't express how much we miss her and want her back, this has left a massive hole in our home and our lives. I've known many cats in my life, and loved them all, but I'd never had anywhere near the close bond with any of them that I had with Tink. She was the most beautiful, gentle, amazing cat I have ever known, and the love she gave me was just incredible. I simply can't believe I'll never see her again, never be able to stroke her, kiss her, smell her, cuddle her.

We had her from the age of 6 weeks, along with her brother Alfie. They did everything together, and were extremely close (even if he did bully her a bit from time to time)! It's heartbreaking to watch him wander around the house clearly looking for her, her scent is obviously still everywhere ... or sit for hours gazing out the back windows, waiting for her to come home.

Any advice on how to cope with the loss? Also, to help Alfie through this? Will he get over this loss? He's never been on his own before, would it be advisable to get another cat as a companion for him?

We are planning on having her cremated at the Dignity Pet Crematorium (Pet Cremation - Award Winning Specialist Individual Pet Crematorium) which is close to where we live. They will pick up her body (I couldn't face doing that) from the council depot as part of the service. We were thinking of scattering her ashes at home in the garden, where we have so many memories of her.

RIP Tinky, we will always love you.

Im so sorry about Tinkerbell, i was in tears reading your post, its so sad, poor little girl.

Im not sure what advice to give you as im no expert but i just want to say how sorry i am for your loss.

But im sure people will tell you to get another companion for Alfie so he isnt on his own and it may help you too in time xx

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Hi, it's never easy to lose a beloved pet, do you ever really get over it? I lost my previous 2 cats within a year of each other and that was 15 years ago and I still get upset about them. As for Alfie, well he is clearly at a loss as to where his friend is, my two cats were like brothers (they weren't related and there was a 2 year age difference) and when the younger one died first the other sat on his grave and on the fence above it and you could tell that he knew that's where his friend was laid to rest, he was clearly grieving for him and continued to do this for a long time. You know your cat best and whether in time he would accept another cat in to his home is something you can decide if and when the time is right. I am so sorry for your loss it always upsets me when I read of someone losing their pet and you will be in my thoughts, give Alfie a big cuddle for me.

so so sad !! my thoughts are with you x R.I.P Tinkerbell

Alfie must really be at a loss!! bless him. cant advise re' another cat, but sure many will be able to advise.

maybe when your ready you can add your tribute on Rainbow bridge. take care....

So sorry to hear about little tinkerbelle. We lost our Gizmo the same way.

So sorry for your loss, I found an article about grief in cats I hope it is a small help at this terrible time for you.

AAaawwwwwwwww so sorry ((( Hugs to you ))) Run Free Little Tinkerbell xx

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just been reading ''article''' found it really good! it's helped me understand the behavior of my friend's cat's since she had her dog p.t.s recently. they have changed in many way's as especially one who spent a lot of time with the dog!

im sure will be a great help to tinky's owner; as it will to my friend !! thanks.

''article'' was in greyhare's post b.t.w-----

I am so so sorry to here about tinkerbell, its heartbreaking to loose a pet and like someone else said, do you ever really get over it? We lost a cat to a car accident in 1997 and i still cry about it

As for another cat, thats up to you....we never could as we dont want to feel like we're just replacing a lost cat, but everyones different. If you wanna get another cat then do it!