Hi all,

Please help,

We have a beautiful tabby who is 13 months old. He is an absolute angel.

We got a 6 week old kitten about three days ago.

We have not neglected our cat, but understand the 6 week old is going to need attention.

Our cat, is afraid of the little kitty, the little kitty hisses at out cat. They are both scared.

How do we get them both to play together. We keep them in one room together for a little while, then we seperate them taking them into different room.

Please help. Out tabby is very attached to me, and although he is an out door cat, it seems he is terrified of the kitty.

I is more than likly not fear but territory based. This is your 13 months old house and there is this little thing in it! also the 6 weeks old kitten is very young he is going to need alot of work as normally they dont leave mum until 8 weeks or more so she can train them.

it may be a case of slowly as the kitten gets older your older boy will calm down and they weill start to get on or sadly they may never do and you will just have to watch them when together these things Take alot of time just do things slowly and be patient and the two will progress at there own rate dont push them or it will backfire.

Good Luck
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Thank you for the rely. I hope they will get on.

Why don't you try feeding them together? Also a feliway defuser might help the situation ... other than that I think you will just have to let them get used to each in their own time.

Good Luck

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We have a similar situation.

Our litten is now 12 weeks old (OMG, it only seems like yesterday we collected her ) and our 2 1/2 yr old cat has really taken exception, and was horried to see our kitten still here after a few days

We are keeping the kitten on a tight reign when Edna is in the room, as I fear she may really hurt Harriet. However, things are getting easier.

Our GSD however, loves our kitten so that introduction was easy

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We are getting a 9 week old kitten on Friday and have been told by various experienced cat owners to keep them separated untill the 1 st vaccinations in case of the kitten catching anything and also after that to introduce them after a week slowly my cats which are 10 months old .

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Thank you all for thew advice. I will look into getting a feliway defuser. We have also been told to try to feed them at the same time. hmmmm mission as kittens just eat and eat and eat.

Funny enough my tabby has come inside today and is sleeping in his usual spot. It will be interesting to see if he does run outside if the kitty goes near him. They are smelling eachother, and my tabby touched the litty little face, sweet.

I will keep you informed.

my Tabby just jumped of the bed, hissed three times at the little kitty with his paw whacked the little one three times. Am I going to have a problem here.

Copied from another thread I just posted on - forgive me for not typing it all out again.

Okay, here's my regular advice,

3 days is very early days - give it at least a couple of weeks before you see improvement. As I regualarily say on here - my parents had 2 that fought like mad for 6 months !!!! And are now best buddies. And when I say fought I mean fur flying, teeth and blood.

Try a feliway diffuser too.

Give it time and patience - it will get there. These things always take time, at least a few days if not a few weeks! Cats that just get on with a new stranger coming into their territory are very very few and very very weird!

Try scent transferal (i'm going to copy and paste now from another thread I answered, so forgive me . .

'I would invest in a feliway diffuser and set that going (it takes a few days to begin to work) it releases happy pheromones into the atmosphere and chills cats out, also try Bachs rescue remedy in their water. Then start scent sharing, rub all the cats with a towel - under their chins, base of the tail, their pads and rub this scent all over the house, on the walls, on the furniture etc, overlay the scents so they can all smell each other. Do this again but transfer the scent on to the other cats so they smell of each other, swap blankets over so they effectively sleep on each others scent. Then gradually supervise introductions - there is a good page on this website Welcome to the UKRCC too long to type out again but really worth a read about introducing cats to each other. Keep all this going for a while and they should eventually settle, also show your (gentle) disapproval of any aggression so it isn't acceptable in the house '

I'd walk away when your tabby hisses and growls, with a short 'stop it silly' or 'shht'. Once she is quiet come back. Bad behaviour equals no attention. Also I'd make sure that it is the kitten who is introduced into the house as the tabby was there first - so keep the kitten in the smaller area and allow the tabby to roam around. If this can be done where the kitten can see that your tabby is the priviledged one she will assume she is the alpha female and should act accordingly.

Your kitten shouldn't just be on milk at its age (not cows milk either most cats have an intolerance to the lactose in it and it can cause the runs) it is ready for proper food so let it have it.

Just imagine how you would feel if a stranger invaded your house and you were expected to immediately be best friends - it is very unlikley to happen! The cats need time to work out who is boss etc. A bit of hissing and bashing with a paw is all very normal and will soon ease off. It's just a warning and putting the kitten in it's place. I'd leave them to get on with it personaly, every time you remove the kitten from the situation the tabby believes she has chased the intruder away and therefore 'won', but the darned thing keeps coming back and soneeds chasing off again! SHe is just protecting you. Get them to play together too.

Try all of this and give it at least another couple of weeks. Eventually you will wonder what you were ever worried about. Good luck.

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Oh my thank you so much for this advice. I guess I just dont want my beautiful tabby to feel neglected. The tabby is a male by the way we are unsure of the kitty gender yet.

Once again thank you so much. I will let you know how things go.