Cats are very sensitive and dont take change well,so it could just be that it will take him a while to really settle and feel at home completely.I'm sure with all your attention and care he will soon feel totally "at home"

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Hello there.
About 5 months ago I took in a feral cat. Never wanted a cat but with the help of the people on this forum I decided to keep her. She won't sit on my lap or really give me any affection but I love her to death. She comes to bed with me and jumps on my bed during the night but that's it.
She dislikes being picked up and basically she doesn't like any affection at all. I talk to her a lot and guess I'm just hoping that she Wil around in due course..
So hang on in there , you ate not alone.

Some cats simply need a lot of time to get to trust a human being. In nature, we'd be considered dangerous enemies, who could easily kill them, so any sign of acceptance and trust is a sure sign of them bonding with us. Simply allow your cat to set the pace and try to behave catlike: don't look them straight in the eyes, but look away a bit, half close your eyes when looking in their general direction, and never ever stare at them.
Staring each other down is a dominance game between cats, so ifyou look them in the eyes you are dominating or challenging them.
By looking past them and half closing your eyes, while yawning or licking your lips, you are saying: I am no threat to you and I feel comfortable in your presence.

You could buy a feliway evaporator, it produces 'happy cat' feromones, so your house will smell like a safe place for a cat to live in.

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Jiskefet & the mognificent Dutch bunch

My little angels at the rainbow bridge

When a cat has had a change of owners, they might feel wary of getting too close to the new owners in case they get abandoned/rehomed again!!! Totally understandable, us humans are the same! If we get hurt in one relationship, we will likely be wary of the next one!!

Even though he gets on with the kitten, maybe he feels the kitten is your 'real' baby and he is an addition... hopefully with time and patience and love, he will come to trust you and see that you are not going to desert him! x

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RIP Charcoal my shy girl 1987-2000, Patch the wanderer 1987-?, Tabby my darling fluffball 1988-2002 & Panda the rascal 1988-2008

We're still working on our ex-stray. 5 months later and she's still very wary of us but is starting to play with the fishing-rod toy and the laser pointer almost regularly. She even meowed at me this morning to be let out. These are our minor breakthroughs, but we're confident one day she might let us stroke her! We really are leaving her to come to us though and we're getting there...very slowly! Just be patient and talk to him in a calm voice and make him feel secure. Treats might encourage him up to your lap if you find something he goes mad for.

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Our lovely cat family: Zarco, Lily and their mum, Jess.

Some, most, the majority maybe... but not all :P

However as other people have said, don't worry too much.

I'd never owned or looked after a cat before but now I have two, mother and son. The son is very clingy and wants to be in my face a lot of the time, while the mother is chilled out and laid back.

But I know how you feel about the playing thing. I sometimes feel like shutting him in another room is like a punishment but put some toys or even a piece of foil wrapped into a ball in the room with him and he's happy

Try and find out what games he likes. Hunting? General playing? Also, if he takes to a particular toy maybe try and hide this until you are around so it's a bit of a special treat for him and he learns to associate you with special things. This can also work with catnip