I have been trying to smile through my tears when I think of Gloworm but it's breaking my heart knowing that he won't be coming back, I know we are getting Savannah soon but everytime I think of Gloworm, I can't see the light at the end of the darkness I don't expect any replies to this, just really need to let it out somewhere and I don't have anyone else to talk to about it

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Gloworm - Run free little man. 23.05.2011-06.09.2011

Big ((((((hugs)))))) hun.

No words to help you I'm afraid but fully understanding of your pain.

We're all here for you when you need us.

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Thanks hun, I keep telling other's how normal these feeling's are, and how it get's easier with time but I don't seem to be taking my own advice :-(

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Gloworm - Run free little man. 23.05.2011-06.09.2011

I know it's hard. What happened to Glowworm was tragic and so so sudden. Only time will heal the wounds it will get easier as time passes.

Hope your little ones are doing better

Em xxxxxxxx

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Being hard on yourself and telling yourself to 'get over it' will only prolong your pain babes. Face up to it, accept that it will hurt for as long as it hurts and you will probably find that it will ease sooner.

Sometimes we expect too much from ourselves and so create a bigger burden to carry.

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It took me months and months to get over the first horrible, I might cry at any moment grief over Freja and Kirby. I got teary every single night missing how she would climb up the covers (they were very tiny) and cuddle next to me on the pillow. I would look at the office door, thinking he was going to appear at any moment. And worst of all, I remembered both at the very end--when she suddenly woke up completely dehydrated and couldn't even walk and how Kirby died in my hands, crying in terrible pain.

The vet said they were probably born with a problem--they grew a bit then stopped thriving, then the diarrhea hit and they were gone so quickly. There wasn't much that could have been done. They were strays, thrown in a ditch and the only two from their litter to survive. We gave them 7 weeks of love and care and nobody really could have known this would happen. But I still feel guilty, like I should have realized something, and I still miss them. But it's not as bad as it was. You'll feel better eventually, but sometimes it just takes a while and it's very very hard and it's very painful. At least you have a place to come and not be judged and you can be open and honest about how much it hurts and we all understand. This forum is a godsend in that way. Most people don't get why you would be so torn up over a little cat, especially one you didn't have long. But we do .

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My babies
Aber, Ragnar, Kelso (the corgi trio), Daisy (our rescue mystery-mix puppy), Ellie, Henry, Gwennie, Jezebel (the kitty quartet), Blake, Chaucer, Molly and Milton (the kittens), and Bingo the African Grey parrot

Over the Bridge:
Pippin: 1/6/08-17/5/11
Freja: 11/8/10-30/10/10
Kirby: 11/8/10-1/11/10

"Praise liberty/The freedom to obey/It's a song that strangles me/Well, don't cross the line" Billie Joe Armstrong

We are here to help each other so if you feel the need to write about Gloworm so go ahead. I am sure no one will moan and in fact those of us that have lost pets can maybe understand what your going through and those that haven`t experience this yet, let me say it is not nice at all. Even more tragic with Gloworm being so young. Bless you.

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R.I.P Patch my well behaved boy dog
R.I.P. Abby and Rebel my beautifull litter sister cats

Take your time to heal. It´s actually a good thing that you feel so bad because it shows just how much you loved. I can´t imagine what it must feel like but we are all here for you.

Trust me....pain does heal bit by bit......the time it takes is hard, but you will get there
Promise

Kelly xx

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and my beloved fur babies :
Honey born 23/08/10 &
Indy born 08/01/11

You know its hard enough to come to terms with losing a Cat when it has had some life and is ill, you can justify and come to terms eventually

What happened to your baby Gloworm was so sudden and a tragic, an awful accident the what if's to that will be plenty. This takes even more time to grieve.

You also have your daughters emotions to deal with and those early days were horrendus for her so you would of been putting rightley all your energy into her.

Dont rush yourself or expect miracles. Grieving takes time and the feelings are awful but perfectly normal. I think we think others think we should be over it so question ourselfs

We so understand on here, so you carry on telling us how you feel so we can support you through this.

Be kind to youself hun x

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