LOL The joy of being owned by a grey - theres nothing like it LOL
Good luck with him - it sounds like you are doing everything you can
Tell hubby he can swear at me if he wants ....... he wont be happy with what I have asked him to do....but if hes calming down with it ( The bird that is ) maybe hubby doesnt have to feed and water him - just make friends through the cage bars....

The main problem with greys tho is they are so intelligent and sometimes single minded you cant stop them from doing certain things, same as debbie said just keep trying you might win ya might not!!

i have grey too.they all have different pernality even thiyght same breed african greys.if he gets stress will can jelousy cos birds used to all ur attension bit they say dont like new things happen so try talk him if see him streed cos it says if they get too stressed out they will start pullin him feathers out which not want.he used be out cage&then u put him in but he dident want to then h be yhinking hat u doin.his he hand rared or not cos if handrared from baby it be used to bein handled&wants more attnsion.also if u tell him off for somethin they can start bitein cos that trust will go

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im an animal lover as i have cat and two parrets which they make me laught so there my babies and they call me all time but they no im disabled cos there happy see me.but i single but they scarred,jelous if man talks to me or if man in house lol prob cos not been around men in here but all part of fun.like to talk to other people who has animals
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Hi all - glad to find other African Grey lovers - aren't they lovely animals?!

We have a 10 year old boxer, a 16 week old boxer cross,4 cockatiels (one of whom is so tame as was hand reared)and chickens, so our house is never quiet, but I would really miss Fred our african grey if he wasn't there.

I am really glad I read the theme above about the behaviour of bringing up food, dropping his body and making strange panicky noises, as that is exactly what Freddie does. He kisses me and lets me stroke him usually wherever I want. Sometimes he can just turn funny so I do need to watch his body language. I did wonder if he thought of me as his mate and going on comments above - he definitely does! He will not let my husband anywhere near him and glares if he comes anywhere near!

I have been told that their whole behaviour changes when they hit maturity, can anyone comment on this as I would hate him to lose his tameness with me. He is three in May.

My grey is in love with me too but I just channel his love into doing things with me rather than regurgitating food for me.
Get lots of interactive toys and play with them with him.
Things like blocks and abacus type toys are great.Baby toys are much cheaper than parrot toys and yoy can buy the wooden ones which will be safe.

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