I have a phobia of spiders as well used to be all spiders but i found that if i FORCED myself to let one run over me it wouldnt be that bad.. All the phobia of spiders is is your brain cannot work out how a spider can have eight legs and move the way the spider does.. My advice is start with small money spiders and let them crawl over ya hand just take deep breaths and relax... It does get easier in time.. Daddy long legs can be just as frightening for that very reason.. I overcame my fear by catching one in my hand and cupping the hand of course i went pale afterwards lol... I can now go to the medium spider range.. I cant tolerate big massive spiders