Hi catalan,

I have previously posted some similar advice on this as I have experience in this area with a two year old my parents got after a family member died.

Tom (the cat in question) used to hide behind sofa's and wouldn't let anyone touch him etc

What I did was, laid on the floor, at his eye level, and tried to gain his confidence. It's not easy and takes time, but if you are standing or crouching you have a much bigger presence which can scare your cat. Bow your eyes if he stares at you and always defer to what he wants. This will build his trust in you and his own confidence. Once he starts to come out of his shell you must enforce strict (but fair) guidelines for his behaviour and you will end up with a well balanced cat. Remember, your the one earning the trust.

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