he thinks he is top dog for certain!!! no dog with respect for hisowner would jump onto the table... also are you absolutley sure he is not being fed tit bits by the kids???? now.. for his fussy eating.... my two lhasa apso's are like this.. they will go two days without even sniffing their food yet sit under our feet at the table at meal tiimes and scrounge the floor... its fussiness nothing else.. your dog deffo sounds like he is getting something better else where... its hard for me to say though as i dont know what his routines are and who he has contact with.
as for the table jumping... he must be seperated at your meal times.. ands if poss try and eat BEFORE he does. this is not always possible. also when feeding him his food make him sit and wait first.
your pooch needs to be told he aint in charge..
good luck

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