Hi Peter,

My thoughts are with you - I lost my dog and my moggie 2 years ago within 3 months of one another, and I know how difficult it is to go through so much emotional pain.

Should you decide to put her to sleep, I would seriously consider asking for another vet to treat Beanie - no vet should ever make you feel like they are not an animal lover (and as for the phone call, that is preposterous).

If there isn't another vet available have you considered speaking to a different practise? The one thing that enabled me to make the decision to put my animals down (they both suffered strokes and were in pain) with regards to putting both my animals to sleep was that my vet was very kind and he would understand my loss. He even went so far as to put my dog to sleep in the back of my car so as she wouldn't have to go into the surgery, and my cat was put down as she faced the window - so she had a nice view... sounds daft, but it really meant the world to me.

I hope that whatever you decide, Beanie goes peacefully and I'm thinking of you at this very difficult time.