Well we made a bit more progress last night. He actually allowed her in house while he was in. He has been getting home around 8.30 at night so while i have made tea she has been in kitchen with me then in conservatory for night which she has settled well too. Well he came home early last night and she was on my knee asleep he just looked and walked away. So she stayed in was playing with her toys she has a paw on a string that she loves and he never said a word. Took toys out last night after i had finished grooming snowy and he just turned round and said your more attached to that cat than kids . Think he is getting used to fact she is staying . He hasnt mentioned her going for a bit