I have the situation where someone else is feeding my much loved ginger cat and allowing him to stay in their home. Yesterday, I had not seen him for 2 days and was very concerned but knew he went to the house so after walking the local roads calling, I went to the house. The woman there had also encouraged my other cat in a couple of years ago, but my son had spoken to her about that. (She denied knowing anything about this.) She appeared to find it amusing and said that he had been there half an hour earlier, that he came and went. I asked her not to encourage him by feeding him. She said she had to have her doors open and that she couldn't stop him from coming in. She had had a cat that died but now has a ginger cat of her own. I asked her again not to encourage him, she asked what was she to do to discourage him, kick him? I told her not to be ridiculous and to just stop feeding him and put him out if he wanders in. She told me to go away and worry about something else! ! ! and shut the door! At which point I rang the bell at quick 15 sec intervals until she opened it again. She just kept on telling me to go away - talking over me all the time - I was calmly trying to ask her how she would feel if it was her cat that went missing for 2 days and she found that someone else was feeding it and making him at home in their house. She told me to leave her alone, that her husband had had a stroke! (What this had to do with it I don't know) Obviously just not able to admit that she was in the wrong and was trying on the 'I'm so hard done by act'. I have to admit I did say "oh and you think you are the only one who has problems, what has that got to do with this?" And again she shut the door and I left, absolutely livid. The woman was wearing a smug grin and just would not listen. Such a futile conversation and she was absolutely unbending in her view. Even had the cheek to say he was always starving and was outside her house catching pigeons - well, not only is he fed but he is also a cat and very much a ginger cat at that, catchable creatures beware!

Feel a bit better now I written it out and he also came home late last night, was it by chance or did she shut him out, who knows? But I'm still livid and don't want to let him out anymore. I tried to find the thread which is mentioned in the attached post, but couldn't. I have searched the internet but have not come up with any posts about real advice. I would seriously serve a legal document on this woman if I needed to and could. It's either that or give her a slap but I'm not a naturally violent person. But seriously, how dare she?!! Any comments please?