Just an update for you all. Bought Clint my male ragdoll a little ragdoll female kitten called Ellie 1 year ago. This has calmed him down completely! He still hates being groomed and can have a bit of a stop when i get the brush out but he does not attack me any more. it may be that he has matured a bit more too, but Ellie is so playful he is always occupied. I even managed to get him to purr

he even lets her eat first!
Those claws can be very sharp and it is distressing when all you want to do is make them happy. I had quite a few serious scratches from Clint and sometimes had to shut him in the kitchen for a few minutes to calm him down. Now he sits on my knee (when he decides im worthy of his attention!) and we have a nice cuddle.
I hope you manage to find a solution, i know how hard it is! keep us updated
