Arwenlune you make me laugh re your horse, mine was exactly the same. The old saying "be careful what you wish for" springs to mind.

Yes, I will take it steady tomorrow (if we are both in the right frame of mine)and try to set up something v simple just to get her used to "yes" and leave it on a good note to build on.

Re "the slipper" that was another of OH's brainwaves. As a pup she loved slippers so when I got a new pair he gave her one of my old ones, against my better judgement BUT she knows and respects that is hers and doesn't touch ours.

Off to bed now to dream "shaping games"