my 3 year old tom is very aloof, likes to lay on the bed but only when no ones in it.My frazzle(died) was the most affectionate little thing any cat lover could ever wish to meet(miss him so much)My two new kittens, brother & sister 6 monthes old are also very affectionate in different ways They clamber all over each other to get closer to my face than the other one Rolo(boy)will not be cradled but kizzy (girl)will lay for hours purring in my arms But most of all they are devoted to each other and love to sleep in a big "cat tangle"