thanks everyone for your kind words and advice, you're all lovely!

thought i'd share this with you... last night ronnie made it on to the bed with us which is where he always sleeps at night... with lots of encouragement he managed to jump up all by himself, he obviously thought "ok, i know there's a bed there but can't remember how high it is so i'll just jump as high as i can"! he jumped about twice the height he needed to... like a little tigger! and made it easy... my clever little boy!!

thanks again guys