Dear Victoria, Thank-you for your reply. Its really hard for us. I am also seeking counselling for the pair of us as My Hugh, My Hubby is Disabled, with arthritis of the spine, hips and knees, deaf and partially sighted is in denial over Ossie, and I know that my heart will be in pieces.Although we have two ther cavvies, Duchess who will be 11 next year she is Ossies cousin and then we also have a younger one.Butnot having any children as such makes it all the more difficult. Still we will not let Ossie suffer I can assure you. Which part of the uk are you from? I am from Surrey. Regards amandah